A person must CHOOSE Gratitude. Entering Gratitude Circle is a moment of humility, a dropping of your guard, an acceptance of what someone else valued the most, and a recognition of perspective that may not mirror your own. It’s also a place to be supported when you feel big feelings.
Read MoreI used to dread this time of year. I’m so glad I’m not in that space anymore. It CAN be better. I’ve compiled a few Holiday thoughts to share, things that help me during the Holidays. Maybe you’ll find something to inspire your own family towards a BETTER Holiday Season
Read MoreOf all my adventures, having children has marked me the most deeply. I’m not sure I can string together the words to explain something that has cut into me so very deeply and yet simultaneously covered all the other marks. Having children plunged me into the battle of my life between complete selfishness and utter selflessness. And this battle rages daily in a way I never expected. There isn’t any real balance to this gig. The hope is that you are happy at the end of it all, though, and that feels like too big a gamble to just go at it haphazardly. Yikes!
Lord knows, I'm not getting all of this right. Most days, I question if I am getting ANY of it right. But if I am good at anything, it is creating frameworks within which I can try to make sense of the senseless.... This is how I am currently waging war on my own daily battle.
Read MoreNapoleon Hill writes in his book, Outwitting The Devil, “The definition of Hell is to stand at death’s door and the man that you are meets the man that you could have become.” That potential is right there inside of you waiting for you to act in your best interest. 2019 is ready for you to invest in the most important community- The Community of YOU!
Read MoreOver the next week, parents everywhere will bring out the Elf on the Shelf.... duhn-duhn duuuuuuhn
From what I can ascertain, this is done with either ridiculous elation over the possibilities or deep dread over the hassle. Let me help ya out!
Read MoreYou know there will be a next time. I know it, too. Hell, at this time of year, it might even be in the next few days. I know you are much too cool to be the loser pretending that those are the most flavorful carrot sticks you ever did eat. I know you have more sense than to try to convince yourself that some magical shake drink is going to “fill you up” so much that you won’t just cave at the party and pile hors d’oeuvres on top. I know that you are going to fill this season with all the things that make the Holiday Season awesome. So how can you arm yourself?
Read MoreI slashed the metal against the flint for what seemed like the ten millionth time. A single bead of sweat dripped down my nose and paused just long enough to catch a ray of sunshine before dropping onto my feeble pile. Spark, smoke, hope…. spark, smoke, hope….. for an hour now. I simply couldn’t tease a fire out of thin air. My hands were cramping from holding the flint and the tiny metal razor of my survival bracelet was cutting into my fingers.
Read MoreI’ve shared before the great affinity I have for my friend and co-worker, Jake Vandergriff, at Haka Fitness. He’s been pumping out some great blog posts that he calls his Wednesday Musings. I had to share this one with my readers! While it made me (literally) Laugh Out Loud, it also kind of lit a fire under my excuse-making ass. You can read more of Jake’s Musings on the Haka Blog.
Read MoreI often feel like I’ve lived ten lifetimes. I used to think this set me apart, that I was different than anyone else, that it was somehow unfair. I used to be very very angry about it.
Read MoreThe story inside my head says I’m not enough. The voice that talks to me says it’s never good enough. It’s never enough weight on the barbell or lean enough or fast enough. It’s never organized enough or brave enough or patient enough. It’s never disciplined enough or free enough or impulsive enough. It’s just never quite enough.
Read MoreI fear connection. To really connect with someone is so personal. Yet, to give that connection is the ultimate gift. Connection is a personal investment and a selfless gift. The more you give, the more deeply invested you become, and the more you risk emotionally.
I found this in my car yesterday. and just stared at it….
Read MoreI am frozen. I NEED to talk to him about some bills. I SHOULD talk to him about his new job. I WANT to tell him how inadequate I feel at all of this. No one told me it would be this way. I don't have the guidebook for this.
Read MoreHe slipped right back into our bed and right back into our lives without much fanfare. Right back to work the next day. Damn. That's not how I wanted it to go.
Mark and I were never supposed to get married. We said so on our first date. I was divorced and cynical and he was an amazing bachelor.
Read MoreI could tell she was shocked, but the question was innocent.
I don't get upset about these sorts of questions. When you do life different than the norm, in any way, people are curious. They become fascinated and interested when you calmly share your story and perspective. This is the approach I try to take. I'm not trying to "win" anybody to my side or convince anyone my way is magical. Turns out, parenting isn't a religion.... or a war.
Read MoreDear pregnant client, you will be fine. I promise. Ignore the voices of the people around you and listen to your heart. Remember that every moment is fleeting, even the hard ones, and in a flash you will live in these moments rather than the present because YOU ARE “IN IT” right now. All in, 100%.
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